Prayer

Even though we are supposed to pray all the time, no matter what season, it seems like we all need a little more prayer during this season. I know I do. Don’t forget to pray. I am pray for strength to get through this season. As a mom, I am always questioning if what I am doing is right. When my kids make mistakes, it hits me harder than when I make a mistake. I always think, I taught them better than that. It is a crushing feeling and none I need some prayer for.

New Book

The Adventures of

The Adventures of Zelda and Foxy

The Kindle and print versions are live!!!!!!

This is a children’s book, written and illustrated by me. I hope you enjoy it!
My name is Zelda, and this is Foxy Roxy. He is my pet fox. I didn’t always have Foxy. Let me tell you how Foxy Roxy came into my life.

 

 

 

 

Happy 11th Birthday Baby

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Photo by _Mxsh_ on Unsplash

The pit in my stomach never goes away.
I miss you, but I know you are in a better place.
As your birthday comes, each year I cry.
No matter what, I miss you.
No matter how many years go by, you will always be my baby.

Artwork

I started drawing for a children’s book for my daughter Zelda.   Someone suggested I put them on Deviant art. Please follow me if you have Deviant art and check out the illustrations! The book is already written, but the illustrations are taking longer.  Though I never really drew this way before.

 

Deviant Art

 

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The Adventures of Zelda and Foxy Roxy!!!

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42 Years Old

Today is my birthday. I am 42 years old. 42 is an odd age for me. My mother died when she was 42. So remember tomorrow is not a guarantee. Live life as if it’s your last day. God said the greatest commandment is love. Don’t forget that!

October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Awareness day.   1 in every 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage.

During this month, I will give my book. Birth After Miscarriage: A Spiritual Journey away for free. You can download the E-book from Amazon.

FREE FROM OCTOBER 13-17

I always wanted to be a mom. After my miscarriage, I thought it would never happen. God had a wonderful plan for my life. I just have to wait and put my faith in Him. Many women suffer the tremendous loss of a miscarriage. They often believe they are alone, but they are never alone. Rest assured that it is not anyone’s fault! It is simply a sad component of life. In every four pregnancies, one ends in a miscarriage. I am sharing my story to help other women who have experienced the same pain I have.

E-books

USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
UK https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.de/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.fr/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.es/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.it/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.nl/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.co.jp/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.com.br/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.com.mx/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN
https://www.amazon.in/dp/B07Q6M5ZBN

Harper

Introducing the newest member to our family! We adopted Harper about a week ago! She has a lot of energy and keeps us on our toes but we love her!

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Homemade

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Homemade (recipes at the bottom of the Blog)

There are a few times in my life when I had to cut back financially. One of these times was after I had my first son Vance. Money was tight, and I needed to save.  I noticed one of my friends using a web-site called “Frugal Girls”. I looked into it and found many ways to save. Some of them sounded crazy, but I tried them.

I wanted to share things I tried and tell others how they turned out. Sometimes it saves you money to make these items, but do they work as well as store-bought items? Is it worth the time to make them?

I finished making homemade Laundry Soap.  It was so easy and if it works, it will save me about 20 dollars each time I make it.  One container of laundry soap could cost up to 20 dollars and I made the same amount for like a dollar.

 I also made homemade fabric softener.  All I needed was a container and vinegar.  Just finished a load of laundry with it and the clothes feel so soft.  If you use Suave Conditioner and store brand vinegar, it only cost like 3 dollars for a gallon.  

I made homemade wipes.  I wasn’t sure about these, but they seem to be working. I took old t-shirts, cut them up, and then put them in a mixture of baby oil, baby shampoo, and water.  You wash them and then reuse them. The t-shirts are softer than regular baby wipes and I use less of them because they absorb more. The wipes also smell wonderful, better than the ones I was using before.

I made homemade leave in conditioner.  It is so easy.  Just take your spray bottle, put a little conditioner in to it (whatever smell you like) and a little water, and shake it up. I tried it this morning, and it works great.  I didn’t even need regular conditioner just the spray. I saved money because you only need a little conditioner for the entire bottle. I used Suave Strawberry Conditioner.  The entire bottle of conditioner cost like a dollar.  It could last me all year, and my hair feels great!

 

Update

The laundry soap is great but a pain to make. The clean up is the problem. It makes a complete mess out of your kitchen. It also makes great presents for teachers. Get a mason jar and out the mix into it, tie a bow on top and you have a homemade present for teachers and who ever else you need to give a little present to.

 

The fabric softener work well, but I noticed after a while the clothes smelled funny. I didn’t know if it was the laundry soap of the softener at first. I stopped using the softened and now only use the laundry detergent. The smell is gone.

 

The homemade wipes worked wonderful at first but my son developed a rash from them. They are still work and save money but test them on your child’s skin first.

 

homemade leave in conditioner this is the best. I use it all the time with my daughter. I will never buy detangling spray again. Just a little conditioner and your all set.

 

Homemade Laundry soap

 

What you need

 

  • 1/2 Cup: Arm & Hammer Super Washing Soda {not Baking Soda}
  • 1/2 Cup: Borax  
  • 1/3 Bar of Fels-Naptha Soap {you could also use Ivory soap, but if using Ivory… use the whole bar}
  • Bucket {2 gallon size or larger}
  • Empty laundry detergent containers or bucket with a lid to store detergent.

 

What You’ll Do:

Grate 1/3 bar of Fels-Naptha Soap over a large pot or saucepan…

  • Add 6 cups of Water.
  • Heat over medium-high until soap dissolves and melts.
  • Add Washing Soda & Borax and stir until dissolved.
  • Remove from heat and set aside.
  • Pour 4 cups Hot Water into a bucket and then add Soap Mixture.
  • Stir and then add 1 Gallon + 6 Cups of additional water.  Stir.

 

Transfer to a bucket with a lid, or pour into empty laundry detergent containers.

Set aside, and let it sit overnight, or up to 24 hours, to thicken and gel up.

 

Homemade fabric softener

(I tried it and loved it.  I will put more conditioner in next time to make it smell better.)

 

What You’ll Need:

6 cups HOT water

3 cups white vinegar

2 cups Suave Refreshing Waterfall Conditioner {or other favorite scent}

 

What You’ll Do:

  • Mix conditioner & hot water well, until conditioner is dissolved completely.
  • Add the vinegar and mix well.
  • Store in a large container {empty fabric softener container, empty large vinegar bottle, etc}
  • Pour into a downy ball… or the fabric softener spot in your laundry machine… then wash!

 

Homemade Wipes

 

  • 2 1/2 cup Water
  • 2 tsp Baby Shampoo or Baby Bath
  • 1 tsp Baby Oil
  • 1/2 Roll Paper Towels (Bounty) I used scraps of old T-shirts.

 

Directions

Take old t-shirts.  I had just gone through our closet and took out anything that was fading, ripped, or didn’t fit anymore.  Cut them into pieces. Mix water, shampoo and baby oil in a container. Put the scraps into the mixture and let them soak.  I would wring the out and then put them into the baby wipe container. Be sure to make extra so. While you are cleaning one load of wipes, you can use the others.  I made an entire box full of scrapes. Keep a laundry basket one with a lid next to your changing area. I would wash these wipes by themselves in your washing machine.

 

Detangler

 

  • Any conditioner and a spray bottle. Just add about ¼ cup of condition and the rest water.

 

 

 

I give up on Sleep

I give up on sleep!

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A note to all new mommies out there. This phase will not last long. Treasure it while you can. Treasure those times cuddling while your baby eats. Treasure this special time with them, for soon they will sleep all night and so will you; but you will miss your cuddling time.

I give up on sleep.  I have tried and failed.  My son Van is up every two hours to eat.  He sleeps a lot during the day, which is frustrating because his sister is up all day.  This makes for one tired mommy. I was breastfeeding until a few days ago. During this time, I walked through life like a zombie.  In dire need of caffeine, I switched to baby formula instead of breastfeeding. I would have switched to formula soon anyway, because I won’t be able to breastfeed while at work, but this is a little earlier than I planned on.  I feel bad, because I know that breast milk is the best for the baby, but I was exhausted.

I know people who have gone back to work right after having a baby and I can’t figure out how they do it. I couldn’t keep my eyes open. The long nights for breastfeeding took a toll on me.  My husband told me that most people do not have C-section and I should not compare myself to others.   He said, “They inflicted a mortal wound on you, and then they stitched you up and gave you a baby to take care of.  So you are healing and breastfeeding.”

My husband can help me feed Van a little but, it is still me feeding him most of the time. I don’t mind. It is my time with him and I treasure that.  Having my husband just take one feeding is letting me sleep a good 4 hours which was better than what I was getting before.

At least I can have coffee now!  My daughter has also been mommy needy.  I felt bad because I couldn’t give her all the attention she needed.  I know that she has to get used to it, but today I was feeding Van and Zelda was screaming.  She was just screaming for attention, but it made mommy very sad.

How am I going to do this when I go back to work?  I don’t have the option to stay home.  I know there is a great debate between mothers who stay home and mothers who work.  Some of my friends are stay at home moms and have told me to just cut back on what we spend and I could stay home too.  Well, I’m sure if they looked at my finances they would see that was impossible. I carry the family health insurance, and we need the money.  I have decided not to go back to my part-time job. I haven’t told them yet. By not working there, it will give me some extra time with the kids.

Okay well it is five in the morning and the baby is up.  Time for mommy to make coffee.

 

Remember, this time does not last long. You might feel like your entire life will be nothing more diapers and bottles; but it won’t be. Treasure this time.